I am Hapa although I don’t look very Asian.
I believe that it doesn’t really matter what race you are. Being Hapa, you don’t usually look like your mom or dad or anyone in your family…you don’t always fit into your cultures.
You’re kind of half way there, you’re accepted as more than an outsider, but not as if you were “pure” whatever.
But I had to step back and think to myself. It doesn’t matter whether I look like my family or not because we all love our friends, but we look nothing like them, right? So that shouldn’t change anything.
I love being Hapa. It is part of who I am. That’s why I love the question “What are you?” It gives you a chance to tell people that I am unforgettable in a very unique way. It is something to be proud of.
” It doesn’t matter whether I look like my family or not because we all love our friends, but we look nothing like them, right? So that shouldn’t change anything.” I love your post, and that you are proud to be a hapa. My husband is Chinese and I am Caucasian (irish, italian, czech). It’s funny, I am not hapa, but as a redhead I do relate to not looking like your parents, having people constantly ask you your background, not looking similar to anyone else in the room. But I think the quote you wrote really gets to the heart of the matter, though! I am so happy to read through this website; it helps me understand a little bit what my own children may feel, and helps me to think about how I can be there for them when they feel different from others. Thanks!